Confession of a friend/colleague

Some times I do keep too much emotional relationships with friends and colleagues don't know why? One thing I have learnt from these relations are they are not everlasting & are momentary.

Good thoughts

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

1. Live in the moment

2. It's better to be loving than to be right

3. Be a spectator to your own thoughts, especially when you become emotional

4. Be grateful for at least one thing every day

5. Help others every chance you get

Emotional freedom: In order to bond effectively with others, you must be emotionally free yourself. To be emotional free means, first of all, to be free of guilt, resentment, grievances, anger, and aggression. You aren’t asked to be perfect, only to be clear about your own underlying feelings. We all have negative emotions, but a leader deals with them effectively, for the good of the group. He or she doesn’t give mixed signals or indulge in outbursts and moods. Only in clarity can you trust yourself emotionally and have others trust you.

A dream without a goal is just a wish

Word of mouth can be a weapon in the wrong hands

A great talker, an even better listener.

“yesterday's assumptions does not work in today's realities”

To reach a point of clarity, the following are very useful.

·       Feel your body. Sensations of tightness, constriction, stiffness, discomfort, and pain are giveaways that negative emotions are asking to be seen, acknowledged, and released.

·       Witness your feelings. Emotions suck us in and color our judgment, which is inevitable. But if you observe your emotions objectively, as passing events whose influence will diminish over time, you can resist being drawn in by them.

·       Expressing your feelings. This means, first and foremost, expressing your feelings to yourself when you know that they are negative and potentially destructive. Learn how to release your negativity in private, and be diligent. Don’t let anger and resentment linger just because you have walked away. They will build up and fester unless you actively express and release them.

·       Take responsibility for what you feel. When someone else makes you angry, their responsibility lies in correcting a mistake, but yours lies in handling our own emotion – it doesn’t belong to anyone but you. It often helps to keep a journal of our emotional life, both positive and negative. Give yourself credit when you handled a tough situation without blowing up, blaming, or turning resentful. Take responsibility for the times your emotions had an adverse effect on your leadership. Journals are also good places to be totally honest and admit your flaws, with the aim of improving on them.

·       Share your feelings. Everyone needs a loved one or close confidant who will listen, understand, and offer a new perspective.

·       Find more perspectives. Emotions are closely tied to beliefs, ego, and old conditioning. When you get angry at someone, you are also saying, “I’m right.” Defuse this self-centered tendency by asking for as many viewpoints as possible. Finding out what others think won’t make you wrong; it will make you bigger in your perspective. At the same time, you will see that anger and judgment are unreliable guides.

Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much; wisdom is humble that he knows no more

We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are.