Good Words

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short – enjoy it.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don't worry, God never blinks.
16.. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19.. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy clothes. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need
42. The best is yet to come...
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

Best ones about Life

Life is Pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something
Pride is the one vice you can never claim to be rid of; humility is the one virtue you can never claim to possess.
"I shall work as if everything depended on me; I shall pray as if everything depended on God."

True words

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

_ Meryl Streep

Labeling the emotions

Go through the list of emotions that you identified... and assign them labels that are positive rather than negative. For example:

• Fear=>Anticipation
• Frustration=>Desire
• Worry=>Concern
• Dread=>Caution
• Flustered=>Excited
• Alarmed=>Curious
• Pressured=>Courted

A day in life without thoughts

In order to make thoughts invisible, started thinking on to my own thoughts. Traced the origin of thoughts as my own breath. I think I need to do visit some places in life, making a laundry list to be followed.

A day after I was sidelined

A day after I was sidelined for not accepting others decision but people are not ready to listen to my suggestions. A repeat of college day issue & my Mumbai day issue.

People are people, so trying to understand what went wrong & how things can be improved.

Read an article on Emotional agilitiy/adaptability. Using positive reinforcments to get rid of the negative thoughts. Can come back in flying colors, only time shall tell it.

 

Life's best decision

Some of life's best decisions that you would make, that would change your life and the world's, would be ones that you'd make not by virtue of the avg. mind or the world's reasoning on a normal day, but by virtue of uniquely-your-very-own reasoning, on that rainy day. It's like flipping a coin to decide and not even checking the results because you know what you want already by the end of it

Good Thoughts

When spider webs unite, they can halt even a lion

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion

Failure is the grandfather of success

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself

A winner can’t afford to remain in a silo

luck happens when preparation meets opportunity

Don’t adopt changes, do adapt them

If you rest too long, the weeds will overtake the garden

Walking a mile in the moccasins of another person, before judging other person

Necessity is the mother of invention but the interdependence is the mother of affection.

Birds of same feather flock together

You are free to choose but not free from the consequence of your choice

our desire to create a win-win for the sake of others is so strong that we lose the self.

If you can’t measure it does not exist.

Confession of a friend/colleague

Some times I do keep too much emotional relationships with friends and colleagues don't know why? One thing I have learnt from these relations are they are not everlasting & are momentary.

Good thoughts

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

1. Live in the moment

2. It's better to be loving than to be right

3. Be a spectator to your own thoughts, especially when you become emotional

4. Be grateful for at least one thing every day

5. Help others every chance you get

Emotional freedom: In order to bond effectively with others, you must be emotionally free yourself. To be emotional free means, first of all, to be free of guilt, resentment, grievances, anger, and aggression. You aren’t asked to be perfect, only to be clear about your own underlying feelings. We all have negative emotions, but a leader deals with them effectively, for the good of the group. He or she doesn’t give mixed signals or indulge in outbursts and moods. Only in clarity can you trust yourself emotionally and have others trust you.

A dream without a goal is just a wish

Word of mouth can be a weapon in the wrong hands

A great talker, an even better listener.

“yesterday's assumptions does not work in today's realities”

To reach a point of clarity, the following are very useful.

·       Feel your body. Sensations of tightness, constriction, stiffness, discomfort, and pain are giveaways that negative emotions are asking to be seen, acknowledged, and released.

·       Witness your feelings. Emotions suck us in and color our judgment, which is inevitable. But if you observe your emotions objectively, as passing events whose influence will diminish over time, you can resist being drawn in by them.

·       Expressing your feelings. This means, first and foremost, expressing your feelings to yourself when you know that they are negative and potentially destructive. Learn how to release your negativity in private, and be diligent. Don’t let anger and resentment linger just because you have walked away. They will build up and fester unless you actively express and release them.

·       Take responsibility for what you feel. When someone else makes you angry, their responsibility lies in correcting a mistake, but yours lies in handling our own emotion – it doesn’t belong to anyone but you. It often helps to keep a journal of our emotional life, both positive and negative. Give yourself credit when you handled a tough situation without blowing up, blaming, or turning resentful. Take responsibility for the times your emotions had an adverse effect on your leadership. Journals are also good places to be totally honest and admit your flaws, with the aim of improving on them.

·       Share your feelings. Everyone needs a loved one or close confidant who will listen, understand, and offer a new perspective.

·       Find more perspectives. Emotions are closely tied to beliefs, ego, and old conditioning. When you get angry at someone, you are also saying, “I’m right.” Defuse this self-centered tendency by asking for as many viewpoints as possible. Finding out what others think won’t make you wrong; it will make you bigger in your perspective. At the same time, you will see that anger and judgment are unreliable guides.

Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much; wisdom is humble that he knows no more

We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are.

Thought provoking

Loneliness has become my friend that I don't require anyone else company.

25 Signs of happiness

You are actually living a good life by recognizing these 25 signs:

1. Your relationships are less dramatic than they use to be.

2. You may not have as much money as you want but you live a rich life.

3. You’re not afraid to ask for help and support.

4. Where you live feels like home.

5. You’ve raised your standards.

6. You let go of things that don’t make you feel good.

7. You have moments where you appreciate who you see in the mirror.

8. You’re working on limiting your inner critic and consciously choosing more positive thoughts.

9. You’ve learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth.

10. You have a support system that includes people who would do anything for you.

11. You hear “I love you” often, from friends, family or a partner.

12. You’ve accepted what you can’t change, but change what you can’t accept.

13. You don’t complain much, but instead focus on solutions.

14. You don’t blame your parents, and accept them for who they are.

15. You stopped caring about what others think of you.

16. You’re happy for your exes when they move on.

17. You can celebrate others’ successes.

18. You allow yourself to feel your feelings and are comfortable sharing them.

19. You have passions that you pursue.

20. You’re able to accept compliments without deflecting.

21. You have things to look forward to.

22. You have goals that have come true.

23. You have empathy for others.

24. You feel connected to your work.

25. You love deeply and open yourself up to be loved by others.

Learning from tirukural

• Something may not be achievable even by God or through God's help. But the effort exerted to attain that non-achievable will yield its deserving result!
• Though the world goes round with many activities, it is dependent on agriculture. Hence, though laborious, farming is the foremost activity.
• As water changes its nature, from the nature of the soil in which it flows, so will the character of men resemble that of their associates.
• Friendship is not just a smile on the face; It is what is felt deep within a smiling heart.
• The stalks of water-flowers are proportionate to the depth of water; so is men's greatness proportionate to their minds (Knowledge).
• Avoid an act which you may repent later; If done by mistake, better not to repeat it.
• Whatever is thought to be done will be achieved as planned, if the planners possess firmness in execution.
• Excessive or deficient food or activity causes disorders in mobility, breathing and digestion.
• Agriculturists are the linchpin of the mankind since they support all others who cannot till the soil.
• The learned teacher makes you enjoy learning; On leaving, makes you to keep thinking of his teaching.
• Think and then undertake the work; to think after commencement will bring disgrace.
• Determined efforts result in prosperity; Idleness will bring nothing.
• Defer not virtue to another day; receive her now; and at the dying hour she will be your undying friend.
• Water will flow from a water well in proportion to the depth to which it is dug, and knowledge will flow from a man in proportion to his learning.
• That which God gives, nobody can ban. That which God bans, nobody can give.
• If any one do wrong thing for you, do good thing for them.

Looking at my better half's blog

http://pavicares.blogspot.com/

New place New stay

After the thunder, it rains. Moved to a new place in Joberg, South Africa. So we are getting set things.

Family back in SA, really excited to meet my family on 11th April 2014

A day which is spoiled

A day when alarm rings at 5.30am and the intended person snooszes but you are wide awake. The request for maintaining some norm in having the alarm in a shared accomodation. Even this time shall pass on!

A Sunday@ home

A day at SA makes us to think what next to plan & where next to move. Need not plan about things as it shall fall in place.

Instagram Profile

Post about a rain

Rain can spoil a day or make you wet. Its all how you take things back into your mind.

New Pongal gift for myself

New pongal gift for myself with a bicycle long since I got a vehicle for myself

Listen to a devotional song

Listen to a devotional song @office makes me travel 10400 miles back to my country India, a simple way of travelling to and fro back home & office.

Weekday start

Weekday start nothing to write or blank on mind but feels like its going to tough going forward with loads of work and little to rest need to find ways to sleep as well.

Good week ahead guys

A mail for the changed blogger

From here change happened!

Change Request

New Place, New Office, New Work, New Friends, New Challenges, New Risk and New Mitigations is part of the Change request

New Post a day keep the doctor away

Just a break to write a post makes me back to conscious thinking about the present than the past or future. So ultimately a blog post a day keep the doctor away

Comfort Zone

if anyone is in comfort zone life will be simple and easy but complicated otherwise. As you untangle the complications it becomes easier for you to dip back in comfort zone again. A change always brings you back away from the comfort zone for that you don't need to jump jobs or hop teams but make sure you open up for feedback and improvements.

Self discipline and self evaluation are the best methods of changes which can bring anyone out of the comfort zone.

Have a great day

New days at SA Life

New days of SA life was about writing mails to my better half, think long and short terms during my long and short morning walks. Birds wake me up at 5am, some time lazy back in bed sometime a lazy walk.

Its been different to break your comfort zone to get exposed to direct sun light

Weekend grocery

Single malt whisky + lays chips

Simple Life

Year 2014 Start

Life has started in South Africa pretty good place with loads of fun and work
Life is so simple that we try to complicate it.

Searching what makes life so simple

Sree